Boss Energy
Managing from a Place of Empathy & Strength
Let’s just go ahead and name it. Microagressions exist in the workplace and women of color who are in leadership positions are especially susceptible to facing them in unforeseen ways. We’ll name a few and share ideas about how to respond so you can maintain your peace and your girl boss energy!
“You are so articulate.” This one really burns because it implies that the speaker didn’t expect someone who looks like you to speak well. It is a disbelief that a woman of color can be so intelligent. Respond with a bit of grace and radical candor. “Thank you, although I’m sure you expected that given my experience.”
“How do you know you are qualified to make that (decision, statement, etc)?” Respond: “My track record speaks for itself. Let me know if you need help finding my bio on the website so that you can learn more”. This puts the ownership on the person to research you instead of compelling you to list and defend your credentials. Honestly, they probably already know but want to challenge you, frustrate you, or put you in your place.
“You don’t seem like a (CEO, Regional Director, Head of School, Superintendent, Senior Manager, etc)”. This comment is a reflection of their limited worldview and not your ability to lead. Response: “That’s the beauty of it. I bring a different perspective that is helping us innovate.”
“You must be so proud to be a (fill in the boss lady title)”. Sounds innocent enough, right? Wrong. That’s the sneaky thing about microagressions, they can be subtle digs and backhanded comments. Response: “I am so proud of my journey, and I am equally proud of the work I’ve done to drive our school forward”.
Remember, you didn’t get to where you are by letting small minds slow you down. Respond with strength, calm, and finesse. Hold your ground and know that while you can’t address every microaggression, the ones that you choose to address will communicate that you won’t tolerate disrespect.
